tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-46220747940369379692024-03-16T14:53:02.656-04:00THE PAINED LIFE, 30 years, and counting, of living with chronic painThoughts on the life, the struggle, the good, the bad, and morecarol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.comBlogger274125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-4568375790100922022023-12-01T11:59:00.001-05:002023-12-01T11:59:37.220-05:00Is the DEA a Domestic Terrorist Organization? — Pain News Network<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2023/11/30/is-the-dea-a-domestic-terrorist-organization">Is the DEA a Domestic Terrorist Organization? — Pain News Network</a>: By Carol Levy, PNN Columnist Terrorism is very much in the news these days, given the Israeli-Hamas war and all the fallout from it around the world. But terrorism can also hit close to home and in unexpected ways. The FBI defines domestic terrorism this way: “Violent, criminal acts committedcarol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-17149438004280529352023-08-21T10:17:00.001-04:002023-08-21T10:17:19.016-04:00A Pained Life: Let the Words Flow — Pain News Network<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2023/8/21/a-pained-life-let-the-words-flow">A Pained Life: Let the Words Flow — Pain News Network</a>: By Carol Levy, PNN Columnist I ended my last column with my favorite saying: “You don't know what you don't know. And if you don't know what you don't know, you don't know what to ask. Our doctors need to ask.” A couple of days later, I thought about the column and my second appointment with a ncarol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-69645629025518052212023-07-19T19:54:00.001-04:002023-07-19T19:54:24.058-04:00What Doctors Should Ask Patients in Pain — Pain News Network<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2023/7/18/what-doctors-should-ask-patients-in-pain">What Doctors Should Ask Patients in Pain — Pain News Network</a>: By Carol Levy, PNN Columnist I learned in childhood to keep my mouth shut if I had pain or was feeling sick. My siblings would say, "Stop your whining. Just go to your room if you're feeling so bad, so we don't have to hear about it!" I learned to say nothing, no matter how bad I felt.carol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-12094194015707473812021-12-26T16:43:00.005-05:002021-12-26T16:43:40.984-05:00A GIFT TO BE REVEREDhttps://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2021/12/24/a-gift-to-be-revered (first published on Pain News Network
I was thinking, “It's Christmas time. I'm supposed to be happy.”
Instead, I am by myself in the parking lot, observing others walking with friends, enjoying each other, and the frivolity of the season. And I am jealous.
I hear the laughter as they walk past me, reveling in the joy of the holiday. And I am jealous.
I feel the biting cold, as I watch them pull scarves tight around their necks, pulling them up over chins and around their ears. Others tugging on their hats to keep out the cold. And I am jealous.
This is my holiday, alone, unable to enjoy the cold and the fun of the season. My pain has left me mostly housebound. I rarely go out, not a conscious choice, but one the pain made for me. I don't want to go out when I am in pain. I don't want to go out when the pain is quiet because I don’t want to trigger it.
Alone in my house, there is no one to befriend me. I have no family, they abandoned me years ago. Despite all the brain surgeries for my trigeminal neuralgia, they still think I am lazy and a malingerer. Friends I had long ago moved, died or the relationships just ended, as often happens in the normal scheme of things.
My pain is in my face. It doesn't allow me to wear a hat or pull a scarf around my ears and face. Winter and Christmas add to the litany of so many other things the pain has stolen from me.
For many people, parties await and shopping expeditions abound, anticipating the great morning of everyone around a tree, opening gifts and squealing at the wonderfulness of what they received. But they are anathemas to us.
It is not that we hate the excitement, the time spent with others celebrating, the fun of seeing all the decorations and storefronts with their mystical, musical displays. It is that we hate the pain.
It is knowing that if we say yes to the offer of going to a party, walking around the stores or exploring the neighborhood, we are saying yes to the pain. We are agreeing to put ourselves in what, for us, is danger.
And that makes Christmas not so much fun.
“Attention must be paid,” wrote Arthur Miller in “Death of a Salesman.” Willy Loman, the main character, was just a regular person.
“Not the finest character that ever lived,” his wife says to his sons. “But he’s a human being, and a terrible thing is happening to him. So attention must be paid.”
We are human beings and pain is the terrible thing that has happened to us. And attention must be paid.
If there is no one else, I and the pain community hear each other. We pay attention. And that is a gift to be revered.carol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-47138008250745612792021-07-15T16:15:00.001-04:002021-07-15T16:15:18.256-04:00A Matter of InterpretationBy Carol Levy, PNN Columnist
I recently read a post in one of the online chronic pain support groups. “Sue” had just left an appointment with her pain management doctor. She was enraged, so angry about the way the meeting had gone, that she went right to her computer and complained about it.
“My doctor asked, ‘What do you think about my lowering the pain meds you're on?’” Sue wrote.
“How dare he reduce them!” was her response. Sue said the medications were helping her and the doctor had some nerve to ask. All these doctors want to do is hurt us, she wrote, and if it wasn't for the CDC and FDA, this wouldn’t be happening.
I read her post and was somewhat confounded by her anger. She did not include any information on how the meeting ended. Did he lower her dosage or the number of pills? I could see how upset that would make someone, especially if the drugs were helping.
But he didn't say, “I am going to lower the level of opiates I am giving you.” He said it in a way that seemed, to me, like he meant to open a discussion.
It reminded me of a difficult crossword puzzle I had just completed. It was so frustrating. I had it all done, but for one four-letter word. The clue was “wind.” All I could think of was “blow,” as in the wind blowing, but the letters didn’t fit.
There was a “C” for the first letter but I could not think of one word that started with “C” that fit the clue. No matter what letters I tried, I could not think of any other answer but “blow.”
Finally, I was able to figure out the word. The answer was “coil.”
“Coi!,” I thought. “Oh, for goodness’ sake.”
I was so obsessed with my one interpretation, it never occurred to me to consider another. It wasn't wind, as in the wind blows. It was wind, as in winding a clock or a windy road.
I think we do this often, and not just with medical people. They make a statement or ask a question that seems clear. But to the listener it carries a whole different meaning.
It’s harder when you're right there. Reading about it online made it easier for me to see it as the doctor asking, not demanding or insisting. In the heat of the moment, it may well sound like, “I'm not going to help you anymore. I'm stopping the drugs that have been helping you.”
There are crosswords and cross words. Sometimes we have to stop, take a deep breath, and instead of responding with angry or impulsive words, ask for an explanation.
“Are you asking me about lowering my meds or are you telling me you will?”
If it’s the latter, it may well be the time to be upset. If it’s the former, it’s time to open the discussion.
Carol Jay Levy has lived with trigeminal neuralgia, a chronic facial pain disorder, for over 30 years. She is the author of “A Pained Life, A Chronic Pain Journey.” Carol is the moderator of the Facebook support group “Women in Pain Awareness.” carol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-46050944237366532021-06-08T19:44:00.001-04:002021-06-08T19:44:35.449-04:00Addiction Is the Problem, Not Pain — Pain News Network<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2021/6/8/addiction-is-the-problem-not-pain">Addiction Is the Problem, Not Pain — Pain News Network</a>carol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-75893948821789559272021-05-06T11:13:00.001-04:002021-05-06T11:13:08.945-04:00What Would Sherlock Holmes Say About the Opioid Crisis? — Pain News Network<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2021/5/5/a-pained-life-the-danger-of-using-theories-over-facts">What Would Sherlock Holmes Say About the Opioid Crisis? — Pain News Network</a>carol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-51873035686076645912021-04-02T21:01:00.001-04:002021-04-02T21:01:50.429-04:00The Pain Community Needs More Unity and Awareness — Pain News Network<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2021/4/2/the-chronic-pain-community-needs-more-awareness#.YGe-caNRsbg.blogger">The Pain Community Needs More Unity and Awareness — Pain News Network</a>: By Carol Levy, PNN Columnist My column last month, “It’s Time for People in Pain to Be Heard,” received a lot of comments on PNN and in social media. Most often the writer wrote about why or how they had been hurt by the implementation of the CDC opioid guideline. Several people commented thatcarol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-49501266241369611842021-03-05T20:27:00.004-05:002021-03-05T20:27:50.831-05:00It’s Time for People in Pain To Be Heard(copied from https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2021/3/4/its-time-for-people-in-pain-to-be-heard
I just had my second “there's an issue with filling your codeine prescription” incident.
I have been on codeine, on and off, for over 30 years. Initially, I was allowed refills. When that was no longer permitted, my doctor gave me a new prescription, each and every month, for 120 pills.
When my trigeminal neuralgia pain became somewhat better as a result of various surgeries, I often took only 1 or 2 pills per day.
I am now about 90% housebound. Part of it is due to Covid, but mostly it’s because I do not want to go out and make the baseline pain worse. As a result, some days I take no codeine at all. My last prescription was for 120 pills. It was a month’s supply that lasted for 9 months.
The first incident was last year, when my pain management doctor decided, without discussing it with me, that he was no longer writing scripts for 120 codeine pills a month. Instead, he changed it to 10 pills a month.
I was told he didn’t like me having extra pills, a nonsensical excuse as I had no history of giving them away or taking too many. Prescriptions for 120 pills just made it easier for everyone, including the insurance company, since they would be paying less for fewer doctor appointments.
Fortunately, I was able to go to my family doctor, who had no problem writing for 120 pills. They trusted me there, knowing I would not abuse them.
But when I took the script to the pharmacy, I was told, “We can only fill a 7-day supply per your insurance company.”
The worst part about that was not that I would have to repeatedly go back to the pharmacy, but that the cost for each 7-day supply was much more for me out-of-pocket than if they just filled the whole prescription at once.
My Physician Assistant called the insurance company to ask for a pre-authorization. This would allow the pharmacy to fill the entire amount at one time. They immediately allowed it for the next 12 months, which seemed odd.
If they think I should only be getting a 7-day supply, then why allow the whole script to be filled for an entire year? Either I am untrustworthy or I'm not.
I am lucky. I don’t rely on daily opioids to get me out of bed, go to the store or be able to work. So many of us have no other option but to take them. My annoyance is tame compared to what other patients go through, who have been unable to get what they need due to restrictions on prescribing.
Physicians for Responsible Opioid Prescribing (PROP) recently sent a letter to the AMA saying the organization shouldn’t be calling for changes in the CDC opioid guideline, even though far more people are dying from street drugs than prescription opioids.
“Medically prescribed opioids remain a common gateway to illicit opioid use and are themselves frequent causes of opioid addiction and overdose, even if illicit opioids currently cause the greater number of deaths,” PROP said.
PROP founder Dr. Andrew Kolodny even said that prescriptions “still have a very long way to go” and should be reduced even further.
PROP’s reach is loud and strong. We complain so much to each other, patient support groups, Twitter and other social media about how awful this is, how unfair and inhumane.
A number of people have started online petitions to send to the FDA or CDC, asking that the guidelines be changed so they stop hurting chronic pain patients. Many say, “This is a great idea.” Yet few actually sign.
Nothing will change if we don’t band together and make our voices heard. The call keeps going out, “Something must be done!” But too often the answer is, “Oh yes, somebody must do something. But I'm too busy.”
Whispering in the wind won’t help. It is long past time for us to become a true force, with a voice that is louder and stronger than PROP’s. carol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-19219552597088050532021-01-31T19:09:00.000-05:002021-01-31T19:09:14.379-05:00Our Dirty Wordshttps://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2021/1/30/a-pained-life-our-dirty-words
A Pained Life: Our Dirty Words
January 30, 2021
By Carol Levy, PNN Columnist
You may remember the late comedian George Carlin’s monologue: “Seven Words You Can Never Say on Television." I won’t list them here, but they are “dirty” words better off not being said, even off television.
I thought about Carlin’s list the other day when I realized there were some words that I use all the time. They’re not dirty words, but for many of us who have chronic pain, they’re words that often prove to be hurtful. Words that we need to let go of.
For example, a major portion of my trigeminal neuralgia pain comes from eye usage and eye movement. I love to read and whenever I pick up a book I know it’ll cause pain, but I refuse to let the pain take this from me.
As I read, the pain starts to grow and becomes demanding: “Stop! STOP NOW!”
But the plot is thickening and the killer will be soon be unmasked (I hope) in the next few paragraphs, so I keep reading. And the pain keeps growing.
The voice in my head yells: “You have to stop. You have to stop NOW!”
The other voice, the one that refuses to accept my limitations, answers: “Just one more page. Just one more paragraph. Just one more sentence.”
I can listen to the sensible voice and stop now. Or I can read just a little more. And be in tremendous pain. Most of the time the “just” voice wins. It is a word that is anathema to controlling the level of pain. But I let it win anyway.
Shoulda Woulda Coulda
“Should” is another word that causes us to do so many things we know we shouldn't: “I should make the bed” or “I should make the kids dinner even though the pain is so bad.”
That’s often followed by the self-flagellating counterpoint “I shouldn't have made the bed or read that book. I knew it would make the pain worse.”
“Could” is another one. I find this word to be a favorite of rueful thoughts in the “coulda woulda shoulda” variety. It is also a favorite of others who ironically think it is a compliment: “You could have been a doctor, lawyer or teacher.”
Yes, that’s a nice thing to say. It is usually an effort to compliment us, our intelligence or intrinsic worth. And it is so hurtful. Yes, I know I could have been those things. I may have even tried, but the chronic pain took those options away.
Pretending or refusing to accept our limitations, and knowing when to say when, is often very hard to do. Because we want so much to do more than what the pain allows us to do.
I am sure there are many other words that describe our plight, but in thinking about it they all seem to come under one umbrella word: Denial.
It is hard to do, but we need to learn to accept what we work so hard to deny. When it comes to deciding what we can and cannot do, the pain is king.carol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-25621063325726165722020-11-11T18:48:00.000-05:002020-11-11T18:48:08.227-05:00Where Is the Hurry to Help People With Chronic Pain? — Pain News Network<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2020/11/8/where-is-the-hurry-to-help-people-with-chronic-pain#.X6x4LLz0TDs.blogger">Where Is the Hurry to Help People With Chronic Pain? — Pain News Network</a>: By Carol Levy, PNN Columnist Why is the United States and the rest of the world in such a hurry to get a vaccine against Covid-19? Easy to answer: The virus is a killer. As of the writing of this column, the number of American deaths stands at over 237,000 and is rising daily. The number of infeccarol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-24060602614955591152020-10-02T16:47:00.001-04:002020-10-02T16:47:00.942-04:00A Different Perspective on Disbelief — Pain News Network<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2020/10/1/a-different-perspective-on-disbelief#.X3eRwUShWfk.blogger">A Different Perspective on Disbelief — Pain News Network</a>: By Carol Levy, PNN Columnist I was watching a 2009 episode of Law and Order . The plot line revolved around a fetus who had Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (EDS). They talked about the trials the fetus would face if born, because he would have “fragile” skin that could tear at the slightest touch. Nevecarol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-65870781334917012022020-09-03T21:33:00.001-04:002020-09-03T21:33:02.113-04:00A Pained Life: Don’t Throw Out the Bathwater — Pain News Network<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2020/9/3/a-pained-life-throwing-out-the-bathwater#.X1GZSqcC5Uk.blogger">A Pained Life: Don’t Throw Out the Bathwater — Pain News Network</a>: By Carol Levy, PNN Columnist In 1976, my trigeminal neuralgia started. In those days, the environment regarding chronic pain was very different. My doctor had only one agenda: He wanted to stop or reduce my constant debilitating and disabling pain. He couldn’t cure me, so he ordered opioid pain mcarol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-69456679921929039212020-08-03T14:03:00.001-04:002020-08-03T14:03:00.199-04:00What If You Can’t Wear a Face Mask? — Pain News Network<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2020/8/3/what-if-you-cant-wear-a-face-mask#.XyhRT_JOS8c.blogger">What If You Can’t Wear a Face Mask? — Pain News Network</a>: By Carol Levy, PNN Columnist Of all the possible repercussions of trigeminal neuralgia -- all the things it keeps me from doing because of the pain -- I never thought it could make me a possible danger to others. But suddenly I am. Because I cannot wear a face mask. Because of trigeminal neuralgicarol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-71059814833447860102020-06-30T12:29:00.001-04:002020-06-30T12:29:42.489-04:00A Pained Life: The Language Barrier — Pain News Network<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2020/6/30/a-pained-life-the-language-barrier#.XvtocbSPBAY.blogger">A Pained Life: The Language Barrier — Pain News Network</a>: By Carol Levy, PNN Columnist Many years ago, I was in Brazil. I only spoke “pigeon” Portuguese. I walked into a diner, looked at a menu and saw something that looked good. The counterman came over. I thought I said, “I would like the egg sandwich.” But I must have said something bizarre, becausecarol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-38019648065744908502020-05-31T11:35:00.001-04:002020-05-31T11:35:34.681-04:00A Pained Life: What Price Would You Pay for a Cure? — Pain News Network<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2020/5/30/a-pained-life-what-price-would-you-pay-for-a-cure#.XtPOwyjRKaw.blogger">A Pained Life: What Price Would You Pay for a Cure? — Pain News Network</a>: By Carol Levy, PNN Columnist I recently had my deep brain stimulator removed. The implant made my trigeminal neuralgia pain much worse. As much as I hated the implant for the entire 7 months I had it, I knew I had to give it a try. I was obsessed with finding a cure. I was looking for socarol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-87232178196335948842018-08-22T18:27:00.001-04:002018-08-22T18:27:08.587-04:00A Pained Life: Hold On Hope<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2018/8/20/a-pained-life-hold-on-hope#.W33jOWMbw70.blogger">A Pained Life: Hold On Hope</a>: By Carol Levy, PNN Columnist If I didn’t know better, I would think the lyrics from Peter Allen’s 1976 song “Taught by Experts” were specifically for the chronic pain community: I've been taught by experts in the art of cruelty Now I'm giving lessons free All it takes is three I'll teach you to macarol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com71tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-70750522087620516892018-07-08T13:35:00.001-04:002018-07-08T13:35:08.320-04:00A Pained Life: Being Your Own Advocate — Pain News Network<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2018/7/8/a-pained-life-being-your-own-advocate">A Pained Life: Being Your Own Advocate — Pain News Network</a>carol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-32629567957834424512018-06-08T23:13:00.001-04:002018-06-08T23:13:50.168-04:00A Pained Life: An Open Letter to President Trump — Pain News Network<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2018/6/8/an-open-letter-to-president-trump">A Pained Life: An Open Letter to President Trump — Pain News Network</a>carol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-89646354798877671382018-05-06T13:16:00.001-04:002018-05-06T13:16:09.089-04:00A Pained Life: The Shared Experience<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2018/5/6/a-pained-life-the-shared-experience#.Wu84VTxMg6c.blogger">A Pained Life: The Shared Experience</a>: By Carol Levy, Columnist I'm watching TV. An ad for an eczema drug comes on. “Sorry, I can’t make it,” a woman says to the person on the other end of a phone call. “It’s just my eczema again. But its fine.” Later a co-worker asks, “Are you okay?” As she scratches at her arm, she replies “Eczema.carol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-7630286593777855732018-04-06T18:17:00.001-04:002018-04-06T18:17:48.897-04:00A Pained Life: My Medical Marijuana Experiment — Pain News Network<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2018/4/6/a-pained-life-my-medical-marijuana-experiment">A Pained Life: My Medical Marijuana Experiment — Pain News Network</a>carol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-41534829962219414872018-03-06T01:23:00.001-05:002018-03-06T01:23:18.998-05:00A Pained Life: An Activism Primer — Pain News Network<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2018/3/5/a-pained-life-an-activism-primer">A Pained Life: An Activism Primer — Pain News Network</a>carol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-28195172944577726822018-02-06T19:04:00.001-05:002018-02-06T19:04:56.423-05:00A Pained Life: Tough Luck — Pain News Network<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2018/2/5/a-pained-life-tough-luck">A Pained Life: Tough Luck — Pain News Network</a>carol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-62571352588172124862018-01-16T00:37:00.001-05:002018-01-16T00:37:57.696-05:00A Pained Life: An Unexpected Gift<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2018/1/3/a-pained-life-an-unexpected-gift#.Wl2PsioQr3w.blogger">A Pained Life: An Unexpected Gift</a>: By Carol Levy, Columnist This past Christmas I started thinking about a Christmas long past. I lived in New York City at the time, but was spending the holidays at my mother's house outside Philadelphia. My family had been estranged for many years (especially from me), and for some reason one of mycarol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4622074794036937969.post-22233703335546888272018-01-04T13:36:00.001-05:002018-01-04T13:36:29.445-05:00A Pained Life: An Unexpected Gift<a href="https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2018/1/3/a-pained-life-an-unexpected-gift#.Wk50KcOi01k.blogger">A Pained Life: An Unexpected Gift</a>: By Carol Levy, Columnist This past Christmas I started thinking about a Christmas long past. I lived in New York City at the time, but was spending the holidays at my mother's house outside Philadelphia. My family had been estranged for many years (especially from me), and for some reason one of mycarol levyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17436295608962472880noreply@blogger.com1